Comments on: Look Exceptionally Well, Or Be Ignored

By: Joey

Joey — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 00:27:18 +0000

I just saw this video before reading your blog. I think you may appreciate it. It’s a commercial for not giving a fuck. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6wS5xOZ7Rq8

By: Tammy

Tammy — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 06:19:33 +0000

I’ve never worn makeup, dressed trendy or gone to any lengths to get male attention and have gotten plenty of it from sexy men. I find when you get right down to it the good ones , really don’t give a shit!

By: goobermaster

goobermaster — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 05:13:19 +0000

MagicMarmot is right. Beauty may get you through a door, but it doesn’t actually sustain very long. Youse gots’ta have substance to back it up. And in the long run (or even short run), it’s confidence and personality that trump all and create all the sparks anyway. So super-kudos to you for realizing that it’s perfectly acceptable and normal to be happy with oneself alone and as is. It’s only then that we’re really portraying ourselves honestly and maybe have a hope of stumbling across anyone compatible.

By: Tiffiny

Tiffiny — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 20:34:19 +0000

i just want to thank everyone for your insightful comments. it’s comforting to hear other women can relate

By: Dynah

Dynah — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 18:56:34 +0000

You make a really good point Tiff. I’m glad you’re finding that you’re happier just being yourself and not trying to look perfect. After all, what good are men when we don’t feel good about ourselves? I’d rather be happy with myself and not have a guy than get hit on all the time but not feel great about myself. And you’re right, if they only want us when we’re all done up and fancy looking, we don’t want ‘em anyway. At least I don’t!

By: Tiffiny

Tiffiny — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 18:32:39 +0000

magic, ty hun *kiss* i sometimes think my confidence sucks, but really its not bad. i just have my “moments” when it’s subpar. howve u been?

By: magicmarmot

magicmarmot — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 17:14:24 +0000

Coming from someone who saw you at CONvergence, what struck me wasn’t the wow-she’s-hot factor (which you most certainly have in spades), but the confidence with which you carried yourself. Confidence is sexy, chair or no.

By: Cat

Cat — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 12:33:04 +0000

tiff, you have hit the nail right on the head. i also have no self esteem issues but have been forever putting extra, time-consuming effort into my looks just to get treated equally. granted, i’m MUCH older than you and time is starting to tell that on my face, but i’m sick of having to spend an hour and a half getting ready for work (i have cp, so even tho i have use of my fingers it takes me much longer than most to get ready for the day), when i look at other ladies that get away with just rolling out of bed with zero effort spent on appearance. i’m sick of it. i go to great lengths - tanning in the summer, having my hair high-lighted often, buying great clothes, and spending a small fortune on makeup and products - for what? just to appear average? to men? i agree with liz. i do “want” to look my best, but i’m starting not to care as much.

By: Liz

Liz — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 03:06:45 +0000

How great is it to free yourself of the push to please. To please everyone that expects a woman should look a certain way. Good for you. You are gorgeous and it shows. Don’t confuse the need for looking your best with the want of looking your best. It’s fun to pamper yourself with what we all love as being feminine…it’s necessity to be yourself at all times. I hope you never feel you have to be someone else to please a man.

By: Krystina

Krystina — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 00:27:33 +0000

^^^I know, its really unfair. But I’m SUPER competitive, so chair or no chair, I’m not stepping foot out the door ”no cruel pun intended” without my MAC…….